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vietxboy911 · **Joined:** Jul 2007 **Posts:** 3236 **Location:**

Yeah, its one of those girl threads, but its not really an girlfriend-boyfriend relationship kind of thread. I'm asking all SRFs for thier advice on what I should do or what I can do to improve my broken relationship with one of the closest friends i've ever had.Heres the story.

Its back in March-April 2008
and this is when the time I got pissed off at one of my closest friends. I'd rather not tell why cause of personal things but yeah, I got pretty pissed off. So anyway, I stopped talking to her less day after day and he just "broke apart". We still talked once in a awhile but never one of those "close friends talk". So summers past and as you know, most people are back in school. Its been about 2-3 months since I started, and I do happen to get some classes with my friend. I guess I had a "stirring" or something last week that made me say, F*** this, I miss the old days where I could auctually talk to her and stuff. I'm not sure if she still wants to be close friends after all these weeks or even months I treated her, but I've decided that I wanted to say sorry for what i've done and get all this over with and start a whole new thing. So latly, I've been talking to her a little bit more and more by the day but i'm not sure if she knows that I want to be friends again. I'm not sure if I should just apologize straight and get it over with, or just start talking to her more and more and see if I could get things back how they used to be. Basicly its my fault why things are now. I need advice from you SRFs and how I can help patch things up. Thanks for reading and responding, if you do.

Midori · **Joined:** Mar 2007 **Posts:** 3425 **Location:**

Just say sorry for what you did. Problem solved.

Squirt · **Joined:** Jan 2008 **Posts:** 8186 **Location:**

I think you should just tell her. I'm sure she will forgive you and be friends.

.AWAKE. · **Joined:** Jun 2007 **Posts:** 2070 **Location:**

well your missing a big part..

what did she do

vietxboy911 · **Joined:** Jul 2007 **Posts:** 3236 **Location:**

Easy_Lady wrote:

well your missing a big part..

what did she do

Not really sure how to explain that part. All she did was try to talk to me( like casualy ) and stuff, but I guess she gave up on it, and ever since then, we were "neutral". Yes I know I've acted like a dick and I feel like it too.

izmeister · **Joined:** Feb 2008 **Posts:** 1138 **Location:** Yes

vietxboy911 wrote:

Easy_Lady wrote:

well your missing a big part..

what did she do

Not really sure how to explain that part. All she did was try to talk to me( like casualy ) and stuff, but I guess she gave up on it, and ever since then, we were "neutral". Yes I know I've acted like a dick and I feel like it too.

Join the club

I would say from personal experience to apologize, you'll never forgive yourself if you don't. Even if she does not accept it, at least that huge burden will be lessened.

iSinnnn · **Posted:** Thu Nov 06, 2008 1:16 am

Tell her how you feel..

MooMooMoo · **Posted:** Thu Nov 06, 2008 1:26 am

Do what you feel is right, you can't possibly ask people every situation you run into bro. You gotta learn by your own experience not by others. Good luck

vietxboy911 · **Joined:** Jul 2007 **Posts:** 3236 **Location:**

MooMooMoo wrote:

Do what you feel is right, you can't possibly ask people every situation you run into bro. You gotta learn by your own experience not by others. Good luck

Yeah, I totaly understand what your saying. Its just really hard to do, if you know what I mean. thanks for the help so far guys/girls.

Snoopy · **Posted:** Thu Nov 06, 2008 4:44 am

As hard as it may be. Try to say sorry, Tell her you miss the old days, when you were friends and it wasn't all awkward. If she was walking across a road tomorrow and got hit by a car and killed, you'd never forgive yourself for ending your friendship on the note you did. So say sorry, it's the best possible solution.

John_Doe · **Joined:** Mar 2007 **Posts:** 2094 **Location:**

Send her mixed messages? Be mean one day then nice one day, it get her to think about you. And boom relationship=sex...lol...umm...nevermind

Priam · **Posted:** Thu Nov 06, 2008 7:31 am

Flowers. They're magic for women.

Schwarzewhatever · **Joined:** Dec 2007 **Posts:** 65 **Location:** =]

Kick her in the ****

Priam · **Posted:** Thu Nov 06, 2008 8:02 am

Schwarzewhatever wrote:

Kick her in the ****

That works to.

Grandpa · **Joined:** Feb 2008 **Posts:** 867 **Location:**

vietxboy911 wrote:

Easy_Lady wrote:

well your missing a big part..

what did she do

Not really sure how to explain that part. All she did was try to talk to me( like casualy ) and stuff, but I guess she gave up on it, and ever since then, we were "neutral". Yes I know I've acted like a dick and I feel like it too.

Quote:

Its back in March-April 2008
and this is when the time I got pissed off at one of my closest friends. I'd rather not tell why cause of personal things but yeah, I got pretty pissed off. So anyway, I stopped talking to her less day after day and he just "broke apart".

Okay, from what you've said about "personal things" I can only imagine a few things it could be. All of them involve betrayal in one form or another.

She seems to have already set the course for you; I've found that trusting female judgment while I'm in the dark about what to do is not only reasonable but oftentimes the only course. Consider the fact that she might be right to "speak casually" about it and to act in a neutral manner after. Maybe just ask her if she thinks the two of you will ever be able to regain the trust you once shared.

~Granps

vietxboy911 · **Joined:** Jul 2007 **Posts:** 3236 **Location:**

Grandpa wrote:

vietxboy911 wrote:

Easy_Lady wrote:

well your missing a big part..

what did she do

Not really sure how to explain that part. All she did was try to talk to me( like casualy ) and stuff, but I guess she gave up on it, and ever since then, we were "neutral". Yes I know I've acted like a dick and I feel like it too.

Quote:

Its back in March-April 2008
and this is when the time I got pissed off at one of my closest friends. I'd rather not tell why cause of personal things but yeah, I got pretty pissed off. So anyway, I stopped talking to her less day after day and he just "broke apart".

Okay, from what you've said about "personal things" I can only imagine a few things it could be. All of them involve betrayal in one form or another.

She seems to have already set the course for you; I've found that trusting female judgment while I'm in the dark about what to do is not only reasonable but oftentimes the only course. Consider the fact that she might be right to "speak casually" about it and to act in a neutral manner after. Maybe just ask her if she thinks the two of you will ever be able to regain the trust you once shared.

~Granps

Yeah, i'm planning on telling her im sorry later today. I need some more opinions though, if i can/should tell her over instant messageing. Yeah, I know its one of the worst ways to tell someone how much you mean to them, but its nearly the only choice I have, because whenever I talk to her at school, theres always someone else there too. Thanks for the helpz.

Reise · **Joined:** May 2006 **Posts:** 6650 **Location:**

Just whip it out and be like: "Bitch. I got shit to do."

XemnasXD · **Posted:** Thu Nov 06, 2008 11:54 pm

Reise wrote:

Just whip it out and be like: "Bitch. I got shit to do."

then start beating her with it and be like "Yeah! Take that you piece of shit whore, won't talk to me about feelings and stuff!!!" Then keep up the molly whooping until you've backed her into a corner cause she totally deserves whats next. Start thrusting everywhere doesn't matter but if you can aim for her eyes, it'll blind her and make the rape that your about to start alot easier....

and when its over give her a golden shower and tell her same time tomorrow...she'll be back...

Grandpa · **Joined:** Feb 2008 **Posts:** 867 **Location:**

It's may be a strange and old fashioned idea but unless there is need for speed you could write her a real letter and put it in the mail.

Something about the mystery of the postbox and mail and all that good stuff works - especially if you are striving to recapture your friendship with her. It doesn't have to be flowery, just speak from your heart and keep it simple. She can't miss the hidden message that you really do care when you take the time to write (even the simplest message) down and send it.

I'd suggest something basic for the body of the letter like, "I don't like the way things have changed between us and hope we can find a way to regain the trust we once shared." <--- that kind of thing. I like what you said in the first post about "I miss the old days where I could actually talk to her and stuff". She'll get the letter and read it, she'll have time to think about what she really wants and you can retain your dignity as you quietly wonder what her reply will be. Letters imply more permanence than instant messages that are only for the moment, then gone *poof*.

Deal gently,
~Granps

vietxboy911 · **Joined:** Jul 2007 **Posts:** 3236 **Location:**

Grandpa wrote:

It's may be a strange and old fashioned idea but unless there is need for speed you could write her a real letter and put it in the mail.

Something about the mystery of the postbox and mail and all that good stuff works - especially if you are striving to recapture your friendship with her. It doesn't have to be flowery, just speak from your heart and keep it simple. She can't miss the hidden message that you really do care when you take the time to write (even the simplest message) down and send it.

I'd suggest something basic for the body of the letter like, "I don't like the way things have changed between us and hope we can find a way to regain the trust we once shared." <--- that kind of thing. I like what you said in the first post about "I miss the old days where I could actually talk to her and stuff". She'll get the letter and read it, she'll have time to think about what she really wants and you can retain your dignity as you quietly wonder what her reply will be. Letters imply more permanence than instant messages that are only for the moment, then gone *poof*.

Deal gently,
~Granps

Thanks for another option gramps, but it seems a little too romantic if you know what I mean lol. Idk, im not sure how ill do it but i'll get it done before tuesday forsure.

XemnasXD wrote:

Reise wrote:

Just whip it out and be like: "Bitch. I got shit to do."

then start beating her with it and be like "Yeah! Take that you piece of shit whore, won't talk to me about feelings and stuff!!!" Then keep up the molly whooping until you've backed her into a corner cause she totally deserves whats next. Start thrusting everywhere doesn't matter but if you can aim for her eyes, it'll blind her and make the rape that your about to start alot easier....

and when its over give her a golden shower and tell her same time tomorrow...she'll be back...

Thats a fail at being funny

Swindler · **Posted:** Fri Nov 07, 2008 4:03 am

Thanks for another option gramps, but it seems a little too romantic if you know what I mean lol. Idk, im not sure how ill do it but i'll get it done before tuesday forsure.

XemnasXD wrote:

Reise wrote:

Just whip it out and be like: "Bitch. I got shit to do."

then start beating her with it and be like "Yeah! Take that you piece of shit whore, won't talk to me about feelings and stuff!!!" Then keep up the molly whooping until you've backed her into a corner cause she totally deserves whats next. Start thrusting everywhere doesn't matter but if you can aim for her eyes, it'll blind her and make the rape that your about to start alot easier....

and when its over give her a golden shower and tell her same time tomorrow...she'll be back...

Thats a fail at being funny[/quote]

Haha i actually laughed, pretty hard actually. Well the clock is 05.00 on the morning here so and I havent gone to bed yet..

But just tell her that you are sorry.

My myself had something like that with a friend, didnt talk to her on 3 months and one day you just realise its time to stop being a jackass.

Priam · **Posted:** Fri Nov 07, 2008 7:26 am

XemnasXD wrote:

Reise wrote:

Just whip it out and be like: "Bitch. I got shit to do."

then start beating her with it and be like "Yeah! Take that you piece of shit whore, won't talk to me about feelings and stuff!!!" Then keep up the molly whooping until you've backed her into a corner cause she totally deserves whats next. Start thrusting everywhere doesn't matter but if you can aim for her eyes, it'll blind her and make the rape that your about to start alot easier....

and when its over give her a golden shower and tell her same time tomorrow...she'll be back...

Shit! I couldn't bare being your lover. What a life that would be ;p

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