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Last night my dad called me that he had something to tell me. I was not home because I am at my girlfriends house. They told me they are going to deforce....

I don't know really how to react to that. Did your parents ever deforce? I'm now 19 years, nearly going out house.. But I feel sad for my dad =[

I really don't know how to react atm.

Sorry this seems like a useless thread.. But I want to talk about it a bit

bro.....

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if you need to talk, msn me

sterkte man

Deacon Needs a Hug!!!

Ey Bro.

Man, hang in there. Ive had friends go through divorce before. You might say you can be thankful your at that age already, so it's not that traumatic. However, im not saying this isnt big.

I'm soz to hear it bro, and just to let you know. The reason they decided to have a divorce is their reason, no one should be asking you. Nor should you be answering if someone does.

You know you can always hit me up on MSN bro. Right now, the best thing you could do is make it easy for them, i mean. When they tell their children it seems that they made up their mind. So yeah, keep them both comforted and strong. Be there for them, and just try to make it smooth.

Man, nick..

Zwaar klote voor je man :/ veel sterkte in de tijd die komen gaat, als je wil praten, weet je me te vinden.

I went through a divorce when I was 15, 18 now. i felt bad for my dad too, I thought the rest of his life he would live alone. you just have to stop sweating it and convince yourself that he's happy. they divorced for a reason, both of them are probably a lot better off now/ a lot happier. if you're about to move out, don't let it keep you down really. Just keep in touch with your dad

I can somewhat relate, I guess. My mom and stepdad are going through a divorce atm, and it's a long painful process for my mom.. Who cares about my stepdad, he's a jerk >_>
It'll be okay though, it really will. Just try your best to keep out of the middle of it but make sure our dad knows you love him.

Well, here's from the other side of the fence - I'm an older guy, going on my mid-40's.

I went through a divorce with my first wife due to my kids not getting enough food, schooling, bad location, drugs in the house...it was a bad time. My kids were 7 and 8 at the time, they're 19 and 21 now. I did it for the right reasons - obviously my ex disagreed, but that's the problem.

First thing of course is don't think that you had anything to do with it. Their reasons are their own, compatibility, whatever. You get stuck in the middle; but it's their fight.

Second thing is don't play games with either one of them which is difficult. If you talk to your dad, and then your mom, mentioning something Dad said could be bad to Mom - let them talk it out themselves.

Thirdly, don't let THEM play games with you -"when can you see me? You're seeing your dad (or mom) that weekend? Well, cancel that and come see me!".

You sound mature enough to handle this and recognize what may be going on. It's almost - I don't like to say it - "lucky" for you that you are on the verge of moving out.

Keep in touch with both of them and let them know you care. I know you don't know me from Adam on this forum, but if you'd like, shoot me a PM and we can talk.

Thanks guys.. All the storys I read here how to go on help me.. It really does.. Thanks

sorry to hear that >.>

well , my parents got divorced when i was 8..me and my mom left home with only couple clothes and some money...
Meh, tbh, good thing i stopped living with my father, since it wasnt being good for me at all..
Nowadays i keep staying ok/getting mad, with my father.. It pisses me off how he acts all the time but i love him..meh.

Well, dont worry maate, it coulda been worst if like they got a cancer or some desease like that, just try not to face this as a loss but yes as a happier way of each of them getting their life going.

Hope this helps

Divorce isn't that bad its better than 2 people that don't like each other staying together, thats when things can really start to get ugly. Your 19 you'll be fine if you feel bad for your dad just hang out with him more.

yeah...my parent fight like crazy, the only reason they don't want to bother to divorce is that it would be too stressful on all of us....so it must really suck when it actually happens. I don't know you that well, but i hope that you can get through it without too many problems. I know some people who are really messed up in the head b/c of stuff like this.

I prevented my parents from divorcing when I was 12...I ran away from home for a few days I lived off of apples and plums and other sorts of fruits i could find..(this was in Poland, you can find alot of that stuff there). Cops found me sleeping in a ditch on the side of a canal. They were so sad and upset they got over their problems.

But since your 19 that stuff won't work for you... I suggest you fake your death and not show yourself to civilization for atleast 2 weeks... A month would be too long and they would give up searching for you and would start blaming each other making the situation even worse.

are you going to college? after 4 years away from the house and a college degree will help you start your own life and forget about your parents

WOT TUH FOOK??

Dont listen to him, never forget about your parents, they gave life to you and raised you to the man you are now.

Jstar1

how can you say so ,Why the hell he must forget hes parents ,even if they be deforce ,but is not meant that they cant be friends maybe they be more close then ever only they cant stay in same house and live together

Deacon

You see dont worry dont listen to him, it be fine for you all is only matter can be better between your parents even is little hard time from beginning

someone has daddy issues,,

Did he tell you to get into the closet?

Redneck GTFO this is not a joking thread..

Where was i joking?

maybe not both parents, but which ever parent is the jerk that causes the mess. Regardless of them taking care of you, I feel its a sin for parents to divorce when their kids are young. Its going to mentally affect them and nearly all of the people I know who have divorced parents have a very troubled school life. And yes, its good that your 19, go to college and get a degree so you can start supporting yourself

Been there buddy, you are tbh because you're not a kid anymore you can understand things.. my mom left when I was 8 I think and it got me pretty bad.
Life goes on and your parents will be fin, just give them some time, sounds harsh but it's the only thing you need to hear.

maybe you know some who have it so ,but not all stop talk blah ,it is not meant that one off the parents are jerk .is not better for everyone if they deforce before it becomes worse or even begins to hate each other, it is better be friends then hate each other / if the parents are friends after divorce can go really well for the kids to

This might cheer you up.
http://www.silkroadforums.com/viewtopic.php?t=73124

no, there is nothing for the child of the divorcing parents that is good. Tell me if anybody here on SRF who has divorced parents say that experiencing a divorce is good. Its common sense, I don't think divorces are going to go really well for the kids when they see their parents argue and then get pulled apart

No but it can be worse if they dont do something about it and i know plenty who have divorced parents but all are still friends even if they are divorced and the kids have no problem at all. Sure it be better if entire family is together but if they start to hate each other what is best ?

if they not like each other anymore is little more difficult but is really not good they stay together there is more worse if they dont do something about it ,but it is important that they take care their own kids

and also better to cheer Deacon up then argue yes?

Hey Deacon,
You're a really good, mature guy. Just keep your head up high, and you'll do just fine. If you would like to talk, you can always PM me. What are SRF buddies for anyway?

Divorce is shitty. My parents split when I was 7. Since then my Dad has not been a part of my life. I've sent him mail, he has my contact info, according to my grandmother. I have always made an effort to get in touch with him but, he seems just not to care. He won't even acknowledge my niece because her father is black. He isn't even in contact with my older sister either. So yeah divorce does suck, but it showed me how much my father really cared. My stepdad has always been there for me though. So it is not like I never really had a father. Hey, at least your Dad still talks to you.

Even if your parents have a divorce they are and they will still be your parents. They're having a divorce because they found themselves incompatible with each other and no longer feels the love and urge to be with each other, but that doesn't mean they will lose the love for you Deacon.

My parents almost divorced so many times since when I was 7, but now they've worked their lives out - to live together and keep the family for my baby sis&bro but to do thier own things independent of each other, and it breaks my heart to see them like that, I wanted both of my parents to be happy with each other, but apparantly that isn't happening so I accepted it.

I express my sorrow for you for going through such a tough life changing family crisis as you're entering college/university. We have to slowly depart from our parents anyway. Meeting new people, getting a job and concentrating on your own life definitely helps. But remember both your parents still love you a lot.

that really sucks deacon...never had to go through that, luckily my parents still love eachother. About 70% of my friends parents are divorced, and 10% should be. Not really much I can say, but we DO have the same birthday, and name...oO